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"Bacon Before Husband" from Mothers and More Mother's Voices Blog
By Heather Curlee Novak
Do you have a daily list? I don't mean tasks for work or chores for home, I mean a Happy List. I have a Happy List running through my head most of the time. This list tends to be fickle and definitely changes with my mood. It is rare that something gets crossed off of it but I get immense satisfaction from my list just the same. My list makes friends laugh and strangers think I am...stranger.
Here is an example of today's Happy List: 1) Mothers and More Blog and Readers, 2) bacon, 3) haiku, 4) my husband John, 5) bacon*, 6) fresh rain, 7) my girls and 8) bacon*. ("Not a typo, bacon should always make the list at least twice.) Sometimes God is first on my list. Sometimes bacon or blue cheese gets that holy and coveted spot. Many days my girls outrank my hubby, but like today they are sometimes in the middle. So this is my Happy List. Do you have one in your head too?
I have this kind of list in my head as a personal reminder to enjoy all the facets of daily life. There are lots of little joys to sink our teeth into and celebrate. The big hurrahs are not so plentiful. I had hard times as a young girl. My parents divorced when I was eight and we moved around a lot. My Mother was a warm funny person, but also an alcoholic. She died when I was thirteen and my relationship with my Father and stepmother at the time was rocky. I learned quickly to enjoy what was in front of me and to take charge of my own life.
Since we can never know what our lives will be like in the future, I have learned to live each day of my life to the fullest. This is why I chose "Farbrent" which means "On Fire" as a nickname for online groups and Twitter. It is also why I called my personal blog "Live Your Love Out Loud". When we love, we are so purely optimistic, foolish, joyful and real. I want to remind others to live their love, and to do it OUT LOUD! At the same time, I need to remind myself to do this too. My Happy List helps me live well.
Early in my marriage I would get so filled up with the simple joys in life I would rattle off my happy list to my husband quite often. He would smile and shake his head. Later after we had been married awhile and were used to each other, he told me it really bothered him that he was often outranked by food. OOPS. So nowadays I throw him towards the top as sort of a marriage insurance. (But you and I know where bacon really belongs.)
Would you share your Happy List? List the top three items on your Happy List down in the comments.